Some people are finding it hard to call themselves introverted, but that’s not me. I’m quite introverted myself.
And that doesn’t mean that I’m an anti-social or an unfriendly person, not at all. There some benefits to being introverted, and I’ll talk about them in this article.
“I am rarely bored alone; I am often bored in groups and crowds.” — Laurie Helgoe
Being Super Aware of Everything.
As an introvert, you’re observant by nature. You sit quietly on the sidelines, and you look around you, and you are very good at it. You notice everything that others don’t because they are always busy talking with other people and speaking loud that they won’t even notice you’re there.
“Don’t underestimate me because I’m quiet. I know more than I say, think more than I speak and observe more than you know.” — Michaela Chung
According to this study, introverted people judge the world much more accurately than their ‘normal,’ ‘extroverted’ peers. Because introverted people are spending more time observing human nature than the people we are busy communicating to.
That also means that you will tell if someone else is doing ‘introverted stuff’ like thinking or observing, and you will not judge them. You give them the space to do so.
You listen better than your peers.
Usually, talking to another person results in the conversation being all about them. At least that’s what I’m experiencing, and it makes sense since we’re social animals, and talking about ourselves makes us feel good.
As an introverted person, you’re quite easily adept when it comes to listening. Being quiet feels natural for you, and many people think introverted people are timid, but it’s not actually shy.
It’s more a form of being awkward and preferring being observant instead of being constantly talking.
The only moment you speak is when it’s thoughtful, and it really adds something to the conversation rather than just shouting out everything that comes up in your mind.
Introverted people can help the ‘talking’ people by listening to them and building a meaningful relationship.
Quality over Quantity.
As I’ve discussed in the previous paragraph, introverted people (like me) usually don’t speak, but it’s thoughtful and meaningful when we do. But that means that when constantly surrounded by extroverted people, the introverts usually feel their energy being taken away instead of gaining energy like extroverts.
An extreme emotional intimacy in a friendship is essential. You rather have two excellent and meaningful friends instead of 10 ‘less meaningful’ friends. Quality over Quantity.
“Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pajamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family.” — Susan Cain
I have sometimes hung out with larger groups of people, and it just didn’t suit me. I don’t feel comfortable, and I rather hang out with one or two excellent friends.
The introverted people I know are very much misunderstood, it might be straightforward to understand an extrovert, but the other way around is quite an accomplishment. Introverts aren’t weird people. They function differently.
“I don’t want to be alone. I want to be left alone.” -Audrey Hepburn
I don’t feel ‘disabled’ in any form as I’m introverted, but I see it as a superpower, a sixth sense, or a gift. I think introverts are needed to make this world a better place.
Meaningful relationships are important; it makes you a better version of yourself.
If you are introverted and have felt insecure, you need to shift your mindset and start understanding that you’re gifted instead of ‘disabled.’