Finding your purpose really sounds like a cliché, but it isn’t, trust me. It’s more like a tool that you can use to become a happier, more fulfilled person. And with everything going on in 2021 already, that might be something you’d need.
Several studies found out that people with a sense of purpose or feeling in control seem to live longer than people who don’t. This can result in fewer heart diseases or strokes, and it shrinks the possibilities to stress and makes you sleep better.
You won’t always find your purpose straight away. It could take years to find out why you’re on this planet. But once you know, you know.
“Life is full of possibilities. You just need to know where to look.”
— Pixars’ Soul
This very complicated process of finding your purpose requires a lot of thinking, reflection, and just listening to yourself.
Now, some tricks or strategies have helped other people, including myself, to come a little closer to finding their purpose that I’d like to share with you.
Exploring Topics, Interests & Your Passion.
Discovering your passion becomes more manageable if you make two lists:
- A list of your interests.
- A list of your talents.
Then you take these two lists in front of you and ask yourself, how can I combine these two lists to add more value?
You look for ways to combine your interests and talents so that you can help others.
Focus in particular on the list of interests, and do not focus on your talents. You can always develop skills. If you really enjoy something, there are still opportunities to develop yourself.
Don’t wait for your passion for coming to you.
You don’t find your passion by thinking about it endlessly. You find your passion by doing.
Don’t wait for the perfect answer. Get started. Follow your curiosity and gain experiences. Use life as a learning experience and see your experiences as data to build on.
You may feel that you love to work with animals. You feel like you want to be a caretaker at the zoo. But by volunteering, you soon find out that you feel much happier teaching children about animals.
The point is: by doing, you get a lot more insights than by continuing to philosophize. Take your interest as a starting point and get moving. Follow your heart and let your curiosity lead the way.
Passion is not mandatory.
Who says you have to have a passion? People with passion are seen as interesting, successful, and attractive. Because they are driven people who know what they want.
But for every passionate person, there are many more people who do not have a specific passion. And that’s fine. You don’t have to be passionate about a specific topic to have a good life. In fact, having a passion doesn’t just have benefits. It can also be exhausting.
Nothing will stop you from choosing to live your life with passion if you don’t have passion. Live with love and attention, putting passion into every moment.
You can simply be passionate about life and enjoy what every day has to offer with enthusiasm. You can help the people around you and try to be a positive force in their lives.
Without passion, your life doesn’t have to be meaningless. Living with passion can be wonderful. But if you can’t find it — don’t worry. You are in great company.
Surround Yourself With Nice People.
Good relationships in your life are so meaningful! Great people are a vast energy source: they give you support, attention, understanding, love, and meaning in life.
Without great relationships, we would miss all of this. Complicated relationships give you the opposite: stress, frustration, fatigue, anger. So the question is, How do you surround yourself with people who provide you with energy?
Make the right decisions.
Make the right choice. Who exactly do you want in your life? What kind of partner, what kind of friends, what kind of colleagues? All these people are not accidental in your life. You have chosen it yourself, consciously or unconsciously.
You may think: “I did choose those nice people in my life, but not those annoying people …”
But you do. You choose something — or you allow it. Admitting something is also a form of choosing, albeit passively. You have actively chosen people you trust and value. Very nice! But if you have nasty people in your life, then you’ve allowed them. You apparently choose not to say goodbye. So also less friendly people in our lives are the result of our choices.
Nobody says you should hang out with people who don’t make you better. In fact, I would do anything to avoid that. Because relationships that cost you a lot of energy also cost you your inner peace, self-confidence, and personal happiness. I have a “zero-tolerance policy” for people that don’t help me: I just don’t allow them into my life.
Starting Conversations With New People.
Meeting new people is often very exciting. Some people always seem to know what to say and dare to approach everyone. If you don’t naturally have those qualities, it doesn’t mean meeting new people is a lost cause.
Your attitude is critical during a conversation. Do you look, grumpy? Or are you slumped? That seems very closed to others! The other person can also deduce from your attitude about how interested you are. Body language maybe even more important than the things you say. And oh yes, of course, it is also good to have a laugh now and then.
Although small talk is beneficial, you can’t talk about little talk all the time. That’s why it’s helpful to find a shared interest. Do you have the same hobby? Or do you both happen to love romantic movies?
I know: meeting new people is sometimes difficult, but talking about a common interest can make this a lot easier. If that really doesn’t work, ask the other person what he/she likes and ask some questions about it.
Feedback, Feedback, Feedback.
The first thing to realize is that feedback in a broader sense is vital to life. Without feedback, there would be no natural selection, no evolution. Feedback is an essential part of effective change.
There is always a change in the workplace. Strangely enough, the difference is perhaps the only constant. Feedback — seeking, giving, and receiving feedback — is one of the most effective tools we have for leveraging and promoting change so that it is for our benefit.
As at the global level, feedback is an essential part of effective change, and therefore improvement, and one of the roles of any manager is to try to improve things.
How to use feedback?
Useful feedback helps people understand what they have done well and what they could do better. Once they know what is right and what is wrong, they can adjust and improve their behavior.
Feedback is, therefore, an essential tool to enhance both individual and employee satisfaction. Useful input in the form of praise lets employees knows that they have achieved something.
It recognizes their efforts and gives rise to the satisfaction of a job well done. Feedback plays a significant role in employee motivation.
In short, regular, good quality feedback is one of the fundamentals for building effective working relationships and getting things done.
Remember that every person has multiple talents, can enjoy endless things, and wants to change a lot.
No complex organism in nature has only one function. So your life purpose can also change over the years, and that’s fine. Because only by changing can you get the most out of yourself and give the best of yourself to the world.